A Marriage Story..

[Abdullatif Muslim]

A Marriage Story..

by the name of Allah the most gracious the most Merciful

i read a lot about this misconcept (the marriage of Prophet Muhammad From Aisha) ... a false claim about the Prophet Peace Be upon him like always..and because of this i made this note..
i hope In sha Allah for it to be Helpful..

اقتباس Princess Theodora Komnene was born in 1145 in Jerusalem she became the wife of King Baldwin III of Jerusalem in the age of 13. in some parts of the world this marrege is not wrong! the question here is why? well to answer this question of which this marrege is wrong or not, we have to ask, Why it's wrong? is it a desperado??? The Byzantian Emperor Alexios II Komnenos married Agnes of France over the winter of 1178-1179 while Princess Agnes of france was born in 1171 which means she was 8 years old with an official Marriage. Now.. When do people Marry? at what age? Usually people Marry after they finish their studies because its hard to study and getting married at the same time.so for that Girls in Urbans they get married at age of 22 or 23 after finishing the university, what about the girls in the villages? or who doesn't go to school? of course for those girls who doesn't got to school or who have finished the high school they probably would get married at age of 18! so what was the situation when there was no schools or universities? what would Girls do? they would get married as soon as they reach Puberty! yet in our mean time a girl in the age of 13 can get married (with her parental permission) check: http://www.sos.nh.gov/vitalrecords/P...s/MARRIAGE.PDF 1- in Texas the Minimum with the parental permission in the age of 14 Check:http://statelaws.findlaw.com/texas-l...ents-laws.html 2- In Missouri at age of 15: http://statelaws.findlaw.com/missour...ents-laws.html 3- In Mississippi at age of 15 for females and 17 for males check:http://statelaws.findlaw.com/mississ...ents-laws.html 4- Also in spain until 1995 the legal age for girls to marry is 12 years old now its 16 5- In Canada 100 years ago the legal age for marriage was 11 years old for females so.. what would you say on those people? its really unfair to judge people from the past with our traditions and laws in the present, you have to judge people if they were doing something wrong or not according to their own laws and traditions in their sociaties. and to prove that the young marriage of girls in the Arabic Penninsula was widespread I can sort many examples.. the prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him) wasn't the first man who proposed to marry Aisha, She was engaged in the age of 6 to another man called Jubair Ibn Muta'm Ibn Adey. Also one of the prophet's (peace be upon him) wifes were Safiah Bin Huyay Ibn Al-Akhtab the daughter of one of the great Jewish tribes leaders He (peace be upon him) married her when she was 14, and He (peace be upon him) was her "Third Husband" the question now is.. what was her age when she got married to her first husband? Maybe.. Ten? Nine? or Eleven! so even the jews back then were giving their daughters for marriage in young ages.. ======== Alright.. you will know that the prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him) married Lady Aisha in the age of 6, but he didn't got into any intercourse with her until she reached 9 years!the question here is.. if he is a "PEDOHILE" or a "CHILD MOLESTER" why did he wait that much of time to have intercours with her after 3 years? the Answer is simple and clear.. it's "PUBERTY".some people would say.. "who said that a girl can marry when she reach Puberty?" From the Encyclopedia Britannica [http://global.britannica.com/EBcheck...82269/puberty] it says:"puberty, in human physiology, the stage or period of life when a child transforms into an adult normally capable of procreation."in the year 1184 Margaret of Hungary got married from Isaac II Angelos when she was only 9 years old.. ----------------------------------- One more thing.. did the prophet Muhammed peace be upon him had enemies? Yes there're, and they were more then his friends but with the word of Allah the Almighty Lord he successed in creating the greatest nation in the world..you would see the Hypocrites in "Al-Madina" (the city of the prophet) were his enemies as well as pagans and jews of arabia were his enemies.. and you will find that all of them tried by all means to tarnish his image.. but they never ever said that he was a "PEDOPHILE" or a "CHILD MOLESTER" a big question here.. which is "WHY?" did they forget? of course not! that would be the best way to hurt him and torture that new-born religionbut we see that they didn't! WHY? because this thing was normal for girl to get married at that time.

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الموضوع الأصلي : A Marriage Story..     -||-     المصدر : مُنتَدَيَاتُ كَلِمَةٍ سَوَاءِ الدَّعَويِّة     -||-     الكاتب : Abdullatif Muslim

[Abdullatif Muslim]

and as for some people who say, that this is called a pedophilia we made it clear for them that The Prophet didn't Had any intercourse with her Until he was sure that she (r.a) became Pubert..

Now.. let us define the Meaning of Pedophilia?! what does it means?
According to Encyclopedia Britannica:
[http://global.britannica.com/EBcheck...75/pedophilia]

اقتباس pedophilia, also spelled paedophilia , psychosexual disorder in which an adult has sexual fantasies about or engages in sexual acts with a prepubescent child of the same or the opposite sex. Pedophilia is a type of paraphilia—a category of recognized mental disorders defined by unusual fantasies, urges, or behaviours that are recurrent and sexually arousing. In order for pedophilia to be diagnosed clinically these thoughts or behaviours must be present for at least six months and must cause distress to the affected individual or impairment of the individual’s ability to function socially or occupationally.

The first Jackpot: "psychosexual disorder in which an adult has sexual fantasies about or engages in sexual acts with a prepubescent child of the same or the opposite sex."

"a prepubescent child" and that's completely not the state of Aisha (r.a) because she was pubert

the second Jackpot: "and must cause distress to the affected individual or impairment of the individual’s ability to function socially or occupationally."

and this was never known about the prophet (PBUH), and the prophet (PBUH) has never been in such a situation like this.

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S أفحص الملف المرفق بأي برنامج مضاد للفيروسات
S قم بمراسلة مشرف القسم بخصوص أي مرفق يوجد به فيروس
S منتديات كلمة سواء الدعوية للحوار الإسلامي المسيحي غير مسؤولة عن ما يحتويه المرفق من بيانات

[Abdullatif Muslim]

alright, now for atheists, who usually talk about this, the simply forgot or ignore or might never heard about Richard Dawkins "Mild Pedophilia"

اقتباس In a recent interview with the Times magazine, Richard Dawkins attempted to defend what he called “mild pedophilia,” which, he says, he personally experienced as a young child and does not believe causes “lasting harm.” Dawkins went on to say that one of his former school masters “pulled me on his knee and put his hand inside my shorts,” and that to condemn this “mild touching up” as sexual abuse today would somehow be unfair. “I am very conscious that you can’t condemn people of an earlier era by the standards of ours. Just as we don’t look back at the 18th and 19th centuries and condemn people for racism in the same way as we would condemn a modern person for racism, I look back a few decades to my childhood and see things like caning, like mild pedophilia, and can’t find it in me to condemn it by the same standards as I or anyone would today,” he said. Plus, he added, though his other classmates also experienced abuse at the hands of this teacher, “I don’t think he did any of us lasting harm.” Child welfare experts responded to Dawkins’ remarks with outrage — and concern over their effect on survivors of abuse.

This line of thought goes back at least to 2006 for Dawkins, when he wrote "we live in a time of hysteria about paedophilia, a mob psychology that calls to mind the Salem witch-hunts of 1692," in his popular book the God Delusion. He continued:

اقتباس All three of the boarding schools I attended employed teachers whose affections for small boys overstepped the bounds of propriety. That was indeed reprehensible. Nevertheless, if, fifty years on, they had been hounded by vigilantes or lawyers as no better than child murderers, I should have felt obliged to come to their defence, even as the victim of one of them (an embarrassing but otherwise harmless experience). The Roman Catholic Church has borne a heavy share of such retrospective opprobrium. For all sorts of reasons I dislike the Roman Catholic Church. But I dislike unfairness even more, and I can’t help wondering whether this one institution has been unfairly demonized over the issue, especially in Ireland and America… We should be aware of the remarkable power of the mind to concoct false memories, especially when abetted by unscrupulous therapists and mercenary lawyers. The psychologist Elizabeth Loftus has shown great courage, in the face of spiteful vested interests, in demonstrating how easy it is for people to concoct memories that are entirely false but which seem, to the victim, every bit as real as true memories. This is so counter-intuitive that juries are easily swayed by sincere but false testimony from witnesses.

He also said:

اقتباس I was myself sexually abused by a teacher when I was about nine or ten years old. It was a very unpleasant and embarrassing experience, but the mental trauma was soon exorcised by comparing notes with my contemporaries who had suffered it previously at the hands of the same master.

Source: [http://www.theatlanticwire.com/globa...-again/69269/]

and when Atheists talk about moralities i would like to see their reaction about their mates in this video:

[Abdullatif Muslim]

In the end i would like to quote the letter of Mufti Ahmad Sadiq Desai

and here what he said:

اقتباس AISHAH {R.A}-- THE BELOVED WIFE OF RASULULLAH (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) AND THE BELOVED MOTHER OF THE UMMAH {By Mufti Ahmad Sadiq Desai} (1) There is absolutely no doubt in the fact that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) married Hadhrat Aishah (radhiyallahu anha) when she was 9 years old. He was informed of his impending marriage to her by means of Wahi. More than eleven Muhadditheen among the Taabi-een reported Hadhrat Aishah's marital age directly from her. Besides this, other senior Sahaabah confirmed this fact. Other authorities have also narrated it from sources other than Hadhrat Aishah (radhiyallahu anha). It is downright ignorance for any Muslim to deny this incontrovertible truth for the sake of placating western attitudes. It only conspicuously displays the intellectual inferiority, the product of western indoctrination, from which they suffer. They have been constrained to look at Islamic and other cultures with the coloured blinkers their western masters have fitted for them. (2) This is confirmed in the Saheeh (Authentic) books of Hadith. There is no scope for denial of this Truth nor is there any scope in a Mu'min's Imaan for presenting apologies and interpretations to assuage the palates of the western kuffaar enemies of Islam. (3) Muslims who become defensive, apologetic and feel awkward when westerners broach this subject suffer from gross inferiority in their thinking. This inferiority is a product of western indoctrination which paints in offensive colours everything which is not appealing to the western so-called 'enlightened' mind. No one hardly frowns at the immoral western practices such as licensed prostitution, abortion, wife-swopping, homosexuality, lesbianism, same-sex 'marriages' and a host of other immoral, unnatural and satanic practices of the modern-day kuffaar who seek to blemish the lofty moral character of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) with spurious arguments and claims devoid of substance. (4) A practice or custom is not bad simply because the immoral West believes it to be so. Marriage of 9 year old and of lesser age girls was a prevalent custom among the Arabs and it remained so throughout Islamic history, not only among the Arabs, but among non-Arab Muslims as well. Other Sahaabah too had married girls of a very young age. The fact that the marriage was contracted without hesitation and without anyone frowning is ample evidence for the prevalence of the practice (5) It was taboo among the pre-Islam Arabs for a man to marry the widow or divorcee of his adopted 'son'. This was such a deep-rooted prohibition that even Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) was very hesitant to implement his desire to marry Hadhrat Zainab (radhiyallahu anha) who was divorced by Hadhrat Zaid (radhiyallahu anhu), the adopted 'son' of Nabi-e-Kareem (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). The prevalent attitude of society inhibited Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) from making known his desire. Then Allah Ta'ala revealed in regard to this inhibition: "You fear people while it is more befitting that you fear Allah.......... We married her (Zainab) to you so that (in future) there will be no blame on the Mu'mineen regarding (marriage) to the wives of their adopted sons...." (Surah Ahzaab, Verse 27) The fact that there was no inhibition regarding marriage to Hadhrat Aishah (radhiyallahu anha) testifies to the prevalence of the custom of marrying such young girls. (6) In the year 5 Hijri, that is when Hadhrat Aishah (radhiyallahu anha) was 12 years of age, Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) gave her as well as all his wives the choice of opting out of his Nikah. They were given the right to choose their freedom. Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) first approached Hadhrat Aishah (radhiyallahu anha) before any of his other wives. When he gave her the choice of gaining release from his Nikah, Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) advised her to consult with her parents first before she gave her final decision. But she blankly refused to consult and spontaneously said that there was no need to consult with her parents because she chose Allah's Rasool and to remain in his Nikah. Now when Hadhrat Aishah (radhiyallahu anha) at the age of 12 was so in love with Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and flatly refused to even consider the option of release offered to her, then what right has any outsider to interfere and cast aspirations? She was not in the marriage against her will. If that had been the case, she would have regarded the offer of freedom a wonderful boon and would have availed herself of the offer. Hadhrat Aishah (radhiyallahu anha) was extremely happy from the very first day of her Nikah with Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). She was a girl of extraordinary intelligence, hence she outrightly declined Rasulullah's advice of consulting her parents regarding the choice given to her to opt for release from the Nikah. Even at the age of 12, she voluntarily, wholeheartedly and emphatically opted to remain in the Nikah. No one, least of all enemies of Islam, has the right to interfere and criticize a marriage with which the wife is happy and which the entire society had accepted in view of it being a norm. (7) There is no moral or religious constraint and restriction on child-marriage. The attitudes and norms of western society are not sacrosanct nor a criterion for the civilizations of the world to emulate. Western society with an ever-changing culture which readily assimilates into its system the worst acts of unnatural immorality cannever claim to be a pace-setter and a leader in the sphere of morality. The immoral metamorphosis it has undergone with rapidity in the past half a century testifies to its morally decadent and incrementally putrid moral state. The norms and attitudes of a culture entirely bereft of morality cannot be imposed on the Muslim Nation as a standard for judging what is good and bad for the public. What appears reprehensible to western attitudes is not necessarily reprehensible in other cultures, especially cultures such as the Islamic culture which enjoys the loftiest concept of moral purity and spirituality. [8] There is also no biological reason why it is improper for a nine year old girl to get married. Girls of nine years attaining adulthood with the incidence of haidh (menses) are not uncommon. Hadhrat Aishah was an extraordinary girl in both intellect and physique. She attained adulthood at the age of 9 with the commencement of haidh. Imaam Shaafi (rahmatullah alayh) states in his Kitaabul Umm that he witnessed numerous girls of the age of nine who were baalighah (having attained puberty) in Yemen. Baihqi also narrates this fact in Sunanul Kubra, and so does Ath-thahbi in Siyar. Furthermore, Baihqi narrated in Sunanul Kubrathree cases of Muslim wives who gave birth at the age of nine or ten years. (9) While western society is averse to child marriage, it is rapidly accepting child fornication. In fact, the system of sex 'education' which is being introduced in western schools to little children is satanically designed to produce a generation which will wallow in fornication and unnatural sexual practices. Reporting on a child sex education programme just introduced in British schools, the International Express in its issue dated 6 March 2007 states: "The video includes detailed descriptions of men's and women's genitals and describes the effects of touching them. Five- year-olds are shown illustrations of naked adults and asked to label body parts, while older children are shown an animation of a couple having sex. Producers Channel 4 say the video is widely used by primary schools as part of the Government's recommended sex and relationship lessons. .......... Roger Hughes, head teacher of Sherwell Valley, said: 'We are revising our sex education policy because girls are maturing earlier. Out of context, saying we are teaching four or five-year-olds about touching themselves sounds shocking. In the context of the video it is not offensive." There is a similar sex programme in operation in South Africa where five and six-year-olds are exposed to such sexual indoctrination. While the sexual indoctrination of 4, 5 and 6 year olds -- which will most assuredly drastically increase child pregnancies in the near future, sexual abuses, unnatural sexual practices and immorality in general -- has become acceptable to western minds, the western enemies of Islam disparage the healthy and holy practice of marriage to a child. While Islam does not encourage child marriage, it perfectly allows it. In contrast, while western norm does not permit child-marriage, it not only allows, but encourages child-sexual activity outside the confines of marriage as the abovementioned press report testifies. Soon fornication and unnatural sexual practices of 5 and 6 year olds will become an acceptable western norm, but child-marriage will remain an 'evil' in the warped and disfigured understanding of the western mind. (10) Muslims should take in their stride the stupid vituperation which the western enemies direct at Islam. They should understand that it is not only Hadhrat Aishah's marriage which they are making a target for their abuse, but almost every tenet of Islam is a target for their vilification. The Islamic system of polygamy too is repulsive to western attitudes. But while they are vociferous in condemning Islamic polygamy, they are ominously silent about polygamy which is permitted in their own Scriptures. The Biblical Prophet Solomon according to the Bible had hundreds of wives, not four as stipulated by Islam. The Prophet Abraham too had a plurality of wives. In fact, most civilizations of the world had and have a system of polygamy. But to the western mind polygamy is 'evil' while the western unbridled practice of a plurality of sexual partners outside wedlock is tolerable and not considered to be in conflict with the 'public good'. To the western mind, monogamy augmented by unlimited extra-marital affairs is acceptable, but limited polygamy in which the women are accorded honour, care, respectability and wifehood is 'evil'. This is the style of western thinking which the enemies are labouring to impose on Muslims who have fallen prey to the liberalism and modernism of western civilization. (11) The marriage of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) to Hadhrat Aishah (radhiyallahu anha) was divinely ordained for the Deeni interests of Muslim posterity. Her intellectual ability and capacity, and her knowledge and wisdom proved a wonderful boon and asset for Islam and the Ummah. Besides Hadhrat Abu Hurairah (radhiyallahu anhu), no other Sahaabi surpasses her in Hadith Narration. Some authorities say that half of the Shariah is structured on the Hadith narrations of Hadhrat Aishah (radhiyallahu anha). She remained a widow for 50 years and died at the age of 68. (12) Muslims lacking in Islamic knowledge and having been exposed to the indoctrination of western attitudes and norms, become apologetic and suffer pangs of embarrassment when they are confronted by Islamic issues which the western mind views with antipathy. The baseless idea of the west holding a monopoly in issues of moral value should be shed. A practice or custom is not bad simply because the West claims it to be 'evil'. And the converse is also true. Islamic concepts are of divine origin for which we offer no apology. On the contrary, we should boldly uphold Islamic Custom and shrug off western objections as drivel disgorged by enemies about whom the Qur'aan Majeed says: "Verily, animosity (for you) has been disgorged from their mouths, but what their hearts conceal is worse."

~Done Alhamdulillah~